“I’m having the best sex of my 25 year marriage.” SD
“I feel guilty that I don’t want sex and it’s impacting our relationship.”
“Gar he’s touching me like that again and I know that means he wants sex.”
“I hate it that I feel so pressured by my low libido but I just don’t know what to do about it.”
Libido! It’s your sexual instinct, or your desire to engage in erotic behaviour with yourself and/or your partner/s.
A mismatch in libido (called desire discrepancy) can cause friction in relationships, or feelings of shame in either or both parties. We can end up feeling like there’s something wrong with us for not wanting sex (or for wanting it all the time) and not knowing what to do about it.
Libido is changeable and there’s lots of very simple tweaks you can make to get it flowing.
Let’s face it, our sex ed doesn’t set us up to understand libido, nor how to work with it when things aren’t flowing, or there’s friction about frequency between partners.
There’s NO education about pleasure, and often we’re not even taught the right anatomical bits for what’s ‘down there’.
This can lead to not knowing what we like, feeling dissatisfied and disconnected, switching off from sex altogether.
So let’s reframe sex from this problematic thing to something safe and fun that you create and receive pleasure through. Something that leads to beautiful connected intimacy, bringing you closer together both in and out of the bedroom.
I’m here to support you to get the education about libido you never had. To understand how libido works for you and give you tools that help you and your partner/s have more fun time between the sheets.
Imagine what it would be like to:
- feel deeply connected to yourself and your partner
- know what you like and how to ask for it
- look forward to and even enjoy your partner’s advances
- feel comfortable talking with your partner about sex
- coordinate small things throughout your day to improve your libido
- create a more pleasurable life overall
- feel sexual enjoyment
- have energy for sex
LIBIDO the program is suitable for:
- The womxn who has low interest in sex and wants to change that
- The womxn who wants to understand more about what she likes in sex
- The womxn in a relationship with very different libido e.g. one partner’s libido is high and the other’s is low
- The womxn who has changeable libido (for example with their cycle) and would like to better work with her cyclical nature
- The womxn who wants more from sex
- The womxn who already has a good sex life and wants to take it to higher levels of ecstasy
- The womxn without a partner who wants to set herself up for better rocking between the sheets with her next partner
The program includes:
- 8 x 75 minute calls
- sex re-education
- how to use a personal pleasure practice as a catapult into pleasure with your lover
- unpacking conditioning
- pleasure anatomy
- the science of desire and arousal
- the interplay of hormones and libido
- understand your sexual archetype and how to work it to your advantage
- determine your unique accelerator and brake profile (turn ons and turn offs) and how to capitalise on these to build arousal and desire
- know what you want and ask for it
- individual support in a private group space
- a community of openness about sex and reducing the taboos around it
- some tantra exercises to do with your partner to develop more intimacy and connection
If you’re ready to shift the shame outta sex and the guilt outta pleasure, while adding more deeply satisfying connection with your partner then this is for you.
Starting June 2024.
Next program dates TBA
KIND WORDS ABOUT EMMA AND HER WORK
“Thank you so much for your help, guidance and support, Emma! I’ve enjoyed working with you soooo much and am looking forward to the next chapter in my pleasure research. A couple of friends have noticed something different about me and I just smile and say, well, you know, I’ve been working with this coach…. “
“Really feel loved and happy and that it’s safe for me to learn how to create ecstatic pleasure.”
“I love that the language you use resonates, it helps fuel the excitement. You showing up with such enthusiasm for my journey bolsters me. I feel like you’re cheering me on, not even from the sidelines, but running alongside me.” Kate
“It was wonderful. It’s amazing how sex talk bonds sisterhood and brings everyone together. I bet most of those women have never had that sort of conversation even with their closest friends. So nice to have meaningful conversations with lots of laughter. Normally it’s me talking about it and making everyone laugh. You brought a whole new perspective to it. Thank you.” NW